As you know I have 3 boys!!! Cole is 6 and is a go-getter. He hasn't stopped moving since he was conceived! He always has to be doing something and always moving! He talks a mile a minute and I don't think he has stopped talking since he learned how to. Cole does puppet shoes and plays and anything where everyone is looking at him. Cole does things to make other people laugh. He was our first child so we focused all of our attention on him. He has a tough time playing on his own and finding direction. He is caring and compassionate when he wants to be.
Hunter is 4 and about as opposite from Cole as can be. He is very quiet around new people and situations. He has always been shy. People even wondered if he knew how to talk when he was younger. He knew how to talk, just chose not to. He hates being the center of attention. On his 2nd birthday he cried when we sang to him. He is as stubborn as you can get. He wants it his way! If any of you know Beau, they have the same temperament: Usually calm and collected but when he gets mad, oh-boy! He has an awful temper full of screaming and temper tantrums throwing and kicking (objects not us of course).
Blake isn't even 2 yet and I think he's a mix of them both. He is very curious and wants to be right in the middle of what is going on. He's a stinker to his brothers by destroying anything they are trying to build or play with. He knows what he's not supposed to do but I still constantly find him into things he's not supposed to be and on the table! He can have a temper, but nothing like Hunter. He can be energetic but not as much as Cole.
Now, I grew up an only child. I had my parents undivided attention and every toy in the house was ALL mine. I didn't grow up near any relatives so I was never around boys (eww gross!). I have no clue how typical brothers this age act.
I don't know if it is the difference in personalities, the age difference or just because they are boys but OYE! All they do is wrestle and fight and throw things and fight and kick things and fight and run in the house and fight. Every once in a while (usually outside) they play well together. They haven't touched their toys in....well I don't even know.
I am at my wit's end with what to do with them. Tonight I had them each chose something to play with and tell me first (yay for early childhood training). They were both playing great. Hunter was playing with the cars and Cole was writing something about Wynot beating the Vikings. The next thing I know is they found a football and are playing with it, tacking each other. I take it away. Then they find a teddy bear and they are using that as a football, throwing wrestling and tackling. Then they find a big tractor tire that started out as rolling it then turned into chucking it at each other.
I just pulled out a humongous box and had them throw all their toys in it. They don't play with them anyway. There were some hysterics.
Now I sit staring at the gigantic box of toys, not knowing what the next step is. Any advice?
And don't say, you need to keep your kids busy, they are bored. For 1, we often play with them. They go places, do different things. However, if you constantly do this with your kid your either A. Crazy or B. Have one child. I on the other hand have 3 kids, a full time job and grad classes. I can't constantly play with them. Otherwise we would all go naked because laundry wouldn't get done, we would have maggots in our kitchen because dishes had sat there for weeks. PLUS I think it's an important tool for kids to learn to play constructively on their own.
So, is this normal? and What do I do with all these toys?
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